On Monday I hosted my first ever dinner party, and it was a success! That’s a loose use of the term dinner party, which in this case involved three of my closest friends coming over for some food after work. I am incredibly proud of myself, and I think if you haven’t done this before you definitely should consider giving it a go. I’ve included some practical tips at the end of this post.
I see these friends once or twice a week out at local Toronto restaurants and locales, and while we’ve gone over to friends’ houses, it’s never been the four of us together at my place. I wanted to challenge myself to see if I could curate a fun night in.
After much deliberation, I cooked Pinch of Yum’s Creamy Thai Sweet Potato Curry, which I’d already test-cooked a few days before. The web is inundated with amazing recipes, and in the end I decided to make a vegetarian meal because I am trying to limit the use of animal products where possible, one of my friends is vegetarian and well #meatlessMonday.
I followed the instructions for the curry to a T and it turned out amazing. I even roasted the peanuts myself, which I’m sure elevated their flavour at least a little bit because they were the best peanuts ever, and I wasn’t the only one to think so.
To start, we ate some vegetarian potstickers—I didn’t make these, just reheated them—and we drank cooling Chardonnay with our spicy meal.
After eating we sat on the couch continually interrupting each other with life and dating updates. It was a lot of fun, and we completely forgot about dessert (we were planning to go to Wanda’s for waffles).
Another happy fact about this get-together is that save for the packaging the potstickers came in and some napkins, this was a waste-free meal. I took all of my own bags and containers to the supermarket and Bulk Barn, my local bulk dry-goods store, so in the end, there was almost nothing to discard. What little I did discard was biodegradable, green bin waste such as potato skins and cilantro stems.
I hope this inspires you to just give hosting a try if you’ve never done it, or haven’t in a while. I find (from this experience and from being a guest) it’s much more intimate than going to a restaurant and it can strengthen friendship bonds in a way that meeting in public doesn’t always. Your friends will appreciate you for it! As well, it can be a more ecological alternative, depending on the choices you make.
Even though my grand tally for dinner parties amounts to just one now, I feel there were some important factors that contributed to my success. Here they are, below:
- I invited only my closest friends. They didn’t expect me to be perfect, and they were there mostly for the company. And because of this I didn’t criticize myself too harshly when at the last minute I realized I forgot to pick up the right type of napkin. Which all in all meant I enjoyed the experience more!
- I prepared something I knew how to make and that my friends would enjoy. I am no cook, but ensuring these two things still made my night (and meal) a success. I mentioned in our group chat that I’d be making Thai to see if anyone would be opposed to it. They weren’t! (This is a good time to check for allergies, too.) Then, after selecting a recipe online based on careful examination of positive reviews, I made it once before the big night. I didn’t want to serve my guests a recipe I hadn’t tried before. The food was going to be a big part of the get-together, so I tried my best to make it good.
- I took the extra step. I’d been working on Monday and unfortunately didn’t have the time to go the whole extra mile. But I found small ways to put in extra effort to make my guests feel both special and welcome. I lit a few candles and I chose to do something as simple as buy raw peanuts instead of roasted. Freshly roasted peanuts taste so much better, and my guests noticed and appreciated the small bit of extra effort.
- I had a backup. I was counting on the conversation to flow really easily between us, because we’re a group of already-established friends. And I was right—it did. But just in case, I thought it would be good to have a backup game to play. Something like Cards Against Humanity or Moral Dilemma can be the perfect social lubricant on an “off” night. This safety net also gave me a little extra room to relax.